When you put the word ‘Threesome’ in the search engine with your safe search turned on, you will probably get a result that sounds like these: ‘group of people doing something, playing golf, playing games, working on a project or in an office together’. Or trying to get a meaning in the dictionary, you would probably get something similar to those listed above. It is most likely the case that, putting the meaning of threesome in the adult world on a platform where any youngster could see it, will be violating some rights and parental guidelines. So, if you are below 18, you can stop right now and come back in a few years when you are recognized by the law as an adult.
In the adult world, a threesome is when three people come together to have sex. All the participants may be single and have no attachment among them aside the sexual arrangement. There are also situations when a couple invite another person to their bed, this person is referred to as ‘a unicorn’ in the sexual glossary. It could be a person of any gender depending on what the couple wants. We can have a case of ‘throuple’ as well, although this may not be common, but it is a romantic and sexual relationship that three people have together, it is similar to two people being in a relationship only that in this case they are three. They have sex together and share romantic feelings. A popular saying goes like this ‘two is a company and three is a crowd’ in this case, three is party.
If you have the desire to participate in threesome but have some questions, these are going to be answered below
Does threesome have anything to do with my sexuality?
Threesome can be had irrespective of the sexuality of the participants, as long as it is made up of three persons, heterosexual and homosexual couples can invite another person to partake in their sexual life. A threesome can be among people of the same gender, and it can also be a combination of different genders and sexual orientation, what is most important is that they are together and achieve sexual gratification together.
Where can I find people interested in threesome?
Thanks to the internet, there are several platforms to meet people these days, regardless of the preferences. There are various hookup apps that you can join to meet people and also list other things that you would like to do when it comes to sex. One of such apps is 3rder, this is a paid app that you can join as a single person or as a part of a couple that wants to partake in a threesome. It is a paid app, which means you need to pay a certain amount of subscription. You can list your preferences, and you can update your moments too, like your Instagram stories. Feeld is another app that you can use to meet other people to engage in threesome, you can link your Feeld profile to your Facebook, although, the privacy policy protects you against anybody knowing you did this. While you can use this app without subscription, for some extra features, you need to subscribe. Other apps include 3somer, Fantasy match, 3Fun and several others.
If you prepare to meet people physically, it will be advisable you go out more and hangout in a group of open-minded people, such information as wanting a third could easily be passed in such hangouts.
What do I have to do to prepare myself for a threesome encounter?
Know your desires: before going on to open an account on an app to meet people for threesome, it is important that you know what your desires are, what you want in bed, what you do not want. Get your desires clarified, this way, you will be able to set your preferences and anyone that clicks and views your profile will be able to know if you will fit their own preference or not. Couples could be looking for someone that is interested in participating in BDSM or Role-playing. You may not be comfortable with these kinks. Therefore, it is important that you set a clear list of preferences
Communication: this is another important factor to consider before meeting up with anyone, either you as a couple or a single person. Communication your desires clearly before meeting physically, some of your desires may not be possible to include in the preference list. You must let the person know what you would like to do and what you want them to do. The reason for threesome is for sexual gratification, you would not want to have someone that will not satisfy your needs or someone that will be more than you bargained for. Boundaries must be set before meeting.
Safety: your safety is above everything else, you have to ensure your safety. For your first time meeting, you can organize your first meeting in an open area, a bar or a restaurant. This will give you the opportunity to profile the person. As a couple, you would not want to bring a dangerous person into your home and as a single person too, you do not want to land in the hands of psychopaths or serial killers. This happens in movies, but what is to say it could not happen in real life. So, ensure you are safe before committing to any meetings behind the doors.
Porn is different from real life: when getting into a threesome action, do not go in with a picture of how it should be, preparing yourself by watching porn can be good for a glimpse of how it will be but do not be deceived that you get the exact thing just like that. Real life threesome can be messy and sweatier than it is being portrayed in porn. Especially if it is done in low ventilated room. You will also discover that some sexual positions might not be ideal for your varied body sizes. Porn may create a perfect scene of three people enjoying themselves in bliss and ecstasy, not that threesome is not all that, but it is important for you to expect things to need to be adjusted to suit you all, especially if you all are meeting for the first time.
CONTROLLING YOUR EMOTIONS DURING THREESOME
Couple engaging threesome might have some emotional issues to overcome, failure to do so may affect the sex. The chemistry between the couple may make them forget the third person that has been invited or because they are used to each other, they may find it hard to include another person. This attitude can make ‘the unicorn’ feel like a third wheel. Such can be disappointing, especially if the person already have various fantasies planned in their head.
Strangers meeting for a threesome can also experience some imbalance, where two people will have attraction between them, and they will easily slip into action, while the third person might feel left out. Such is bound to happen, especially if each person has not been in a threesome before and has not learned how to create a bound in that kind of situation.
The major way of solving this kind of problem is to communicate. Before and during the sex, also after the sex so that corrections can be made when meeting next time. Communication is very important and cannot be overemphasized, when you are feeling left out, you make this known.
Sometimes, starting a speech about how you are feeling left out may affect the flow, so instead, another thing you can do when this happens is to look for ways to join in what is going on rather than become angry or moody. There is always a way to contribute or participate in a threesome, you just have to look for it and soon, you will find a balance.
For couples, always check in with your partners. You do not have to use words, but you can always look at them to gauge their reactions, especially when you are engaged with the third person. Seeing your partner with another person physically, can bring on some emotions totally different from when you imagined it in your head. So, as a couple, you must find a way to communicate even without words so that no one is hurt at the end.
Some exceptions:
Sometimes, a husband might simply want to watch a stranger with his wife without participating, he will just sit on the side line and watch, sometimes jerking off as well. Same way, the wife may wish to watch her husband with someone else. This act may be termed voyeurism. Some couples seeking a third person may want this actually, so you as the single person should know this before going in, especially if you do not like being watched while having sex, it may cramp your style. Couples may seek someone interested in threesome because at a point they may like to join their partners in the action, when they are aroused to a level, watching alone at first, can be exactly what is needed to get them in the mood.
BEST SEX POSITIONS FOR THREESOME
Double oral
As a man in this situation, you have your penis sucked by the women or men, depending on the combination. To make it easier, you can have one person suck the shaft while the other suck the balls, the way, they will not be in each other’s way. As a woman, you can have two people giving you a blow job. For this position, cooperation is needed and boundaries checked too because it may bring two people of same gender together, and they should be ready for it when they end up kissing each other as it bound to happen in this case.
69 train
This is exactly like the 69 position in the sex with two people, each person have to blow or eat out the other and form a perfect circle. It is important that if you are going to do this in a threesome, you are roughly shaped and sized the same way or this could be uncomfortable otherwise.
Double penetration
This involves two persons with penis or strap-on dildos. The woman will be penetrated at the same time. The two persons with penis lie with the butts touching, and the woman sits on the penises, either one for anal sex and the other penis goes into her vagina or both penises goes into her vagina. It depends on what she wants. Although, this position is quite difficulty to do and maintain.
Doggy Deluxe
One person, which is the vulva owner, gets penetrated from behind while she eats out or blows the other partner that will be lying down.
Doggy train
In this position, the three persons are on a straight line on their knees. The person at the head of the train gets their anus rimmed by the second person, and this second person is being penetrated by the third.
CONCLUSION
As said earlier, a threesome is an activity that involve three people having sex together. Getting in sync with a person might be challenging, now imagine doing it with two other people. That is why, while a threesome might be enjoyable and adventurous, it is not as easy as the porn industry makes it seem to be or as you have imagined in your head. Nothing good comes easy, same with threesome, you need to be mentally ready to share your partner with another person and also be comfortable enough to be aroused by whatever happens. Attraction may develop for someone invited for a threesome and even by the invited person for one of the couple, this is a possibility you must be prepared for. Therefore, couples must have a deep understanding of themselves before engaging in a three-way action. An individual too, going into three-way action with strangers must be ready to let go of any inhibitions they might have. All these done, a threesome might be the spark you need in your sex life, to bring life and vibe to it.