The Beginner's Guide to Using a Strap On dildo

What Does a Strap-On Mean?

A strap-on is a dildo that may be worn and is attached to a harness or vaginal plug for use during sexual activity. Strap-free, hollow, curved, and removable strap-ons are among the various choices available for varied preferences. With a partner of any gender identity or sexual orientation, you can use strap-ons for masturbation, oral sex simulation, vaginal penetration, and anal penetration.

Structures and Features:

 For a strap-on dildo setup, a variety of equipment is available, each with its own set of benefits and cons. The strap-on dildo is frequently used in conjunction with following:

Harness:The harness, which binds the dildo to the wearer's body in a position comparable to a male's genitals, is the initial part of a strap-on setup. A good harness should be strong but comfortable, and it's typically designed to provide the wearer sensation.

Cloth: is primarily used in clothing harnesses like as corsets and other lingerie, although it is also utilised in extremely low-cost harnesses.

Plastic:

1. Harness made of clear plastic:

Soft plastic, such as flexible vinyl, is used in several harnesses. These are frequently available in colours other than black, and some are fully transparent (not possible with other materials). They may be less comfortable than other fabrics, and fitting them properly may be problematic. They're simple to clean and have a good amount of durability.

2. PVC, latex, and rubber:

Instead of utilising straps, latex harnesses frequently cover the entire area. They are often moderately priced and have a short lifespan, particularly when used with oil-based lubricants. Latex can be difficult to maintain, requiring specific cleaners or shiners to keep it from drying out and becoming dusty. The dildo(s) may or may not be moulded into the latex harness, and in either case, they tend to be floppy due to the latex's flexibility. Rubber or PVC harnesses that are similar to latex harnesses are also available, albeit PVC tends to be less flexible and elastic.

Corsets and other garments:

Strap-on harnesses that are integrated into various clothing pieces, most commonly as a corset or other lingerie item, are available. Some are designed to be worn underneath normal clothing for quick use (this is sometimes referred to as packing), while others take advantage of the extra strength and sturdiness an item of clothing can provide over a few straps, or simply to integrate the strap-on into an erotic outfit.

Base:

Bases Fittings may be used to attach dildos to almost any household object, allowing for a variety of imaginative applications. A dildo may be attached to a chair, bed, or any other piece of furniture, and it could be used to penetrate someone while they were doing something else, with or without a partner.

How does it work?

 A strap-on dildo can penetrate the cervix and trigger the g-spot—a two- to three-inch area inside the vaginal canal that, when stimulated, can cause satisfaction and pleasure. Strap-ons can also stimulate the prostate gland, which generates prostatic fluid, which is mixed with sperm to form ejaculate (or semen)

There are nine different types of strap-on dildos.

Strap-on dildos come in a variety of styles, each meant to complement a specific technique or create a specific pleasure. The following are the most prevalent strap-ons:

1. Briefs: Boxer-brief strap-ons are designed for optimal comfort and include a brief harness instead of straps. The dildo is attached to a pair of boxer-brief underwear for this strap-on style, which eliminates chafing, which is a major problem with regular strap-ons that attach to the waist or thighs. Brief strap-ons are also a good choice for new peggers and penetrators because they don't require as much tweaking as other strap-ons.
2. Curved: A curved strap-on has a dildo with a small upward curvature that is designed to stimulate the p-spot, or prostate gland, as well as the g-spot for vulva owners.
3. Double: Double strap-ons (also known as double dildos) often have two similar-sized dildos designed to penetrate the wearer and the receiver at the same time. Vulva-to-vulva or vulva-to-anal penetration can both be accomplished with double strap-ons.
4. Hollow: For longer sex sessions or more girth, penis owners can insert their parts inside a hollow strap-on. This sort of strap-on was created as a treatment for males suffering from erectile dysfunction.
5. Pegging: Strap-ons for pegging, a sex act in which the penetrator anally penetrates the receiver with a strap-on dildo, have their own practical style—a narrower harness profile that is ideally suited for a thinner, curved dildo that is more pleasant during anal play.
6. Removable: Some strap-on harnesses have metal or plastic o-rings that make it simple to replace different dildos based on personal choice. Any flat-base dildo  can be threaded through the ring and held in place.
7. Strapless: Instead of a harness, strapless strap-ons include a solo dildo with a vaginal plug on one end, allowing for simultaneous vaginal and anus penetration. These dildos can be used as a pegging device or between two vulva owners. Learn how to choose and use strpless dildo
8. Unisex: Unisex adjustable harnesses with adjustable straps and a crotchless design that fits around the legs and waist are available for penis and vulva owners. During use, the wearer's penis or clitoris is comfortable and accessible because to its design.
9. Vibrating strap-ons merge the pleasure of vibrators and freestanding dildos, and include a corded remote that controls a little motor in the dildo shaft. My favorite one is Roomfun Dual Vibration Strap-On Harness Dildo, it is remotely controlled, and double stimulation can make people enjoy orgasm at the same time.

How Do you Use It?

Using a strap-on, as simple as it may appear, is not always an easy process. Here are some pointers for new strap-on users:

1. Make sure you're a good fit. When looking for the perfect strap-on, there are two things to think about: the harness and the dildo. A strap-on harness should be snug, but not so tight that it chafes or cuts into the skin. If feasible, try on harnesses in a store to assist you determine the best option for your needs. Consider the   soft, flexible silicone or a more textured material like pvc.
2. Sanitization. To avoid introducing hazardous bacteria into your or your partner's body, keep strap-ons clean between uses, just like any other sex toy. Some harnesses may be machine washed, while others, like as leather harnesses, must be hand washed with warm water and soap. After each usage, clean and sterilise dildos with a specialised sex toy cleaner or antibacterial hand soap.
3. Lubrication. The capacity of lube to dispel friction and promote comfort has an impact on strap-on play. Select a lubrication that complements the substance of your chosen dildo. Avoid using a silicone-based lube with a silicone-based dildo, for example, because the former will break down the latter.
4. Keep in touch with your partner.In any sexual relationship, communication is essential, but it becomes even more so during strap-on play. Before you use a strap-on in your sex session, talk about it. It might be difficult to correctly evaluate intensity as the wearer, so pay attention to your partner's reactions and demands.
5. Make any necessary adjustments to the harness. It's a good idea to adjust the harness before using a strap-on dildo with a harness connection for better control of the dildo. It will be difficult to execute a smooth stroking motion if the harness is too loose, causing you to stop and adjust, which will impair the mood of your sex session.
6. Begin by straddling your partner. Begin with the wearer lying on their back to ease them into the strap-on sensation. The penetrated partner can regulate the sensations and depth in this position. Strap-ons can be used in most sex positions once you've gotten used to them.
7. Have patience. It takes experience to master a strap-on—you're effectively holding a new body part—so be patient with yourself if this is your first time.

How to Choose a Dildo that fits your Harness?

It is critical that you take precise dimensions of your harness as well as any dildos you intend to utilise with it. Only by measuring each dildo will you be able to assure that it will fit your harness adequately.

Length, breadth (for dildos, commonly referred to as "girth" or "thickness"), and circumference - including the girth and circumference of any larger or weirdly shaped parts, such as bulges, knots, or mimicked testicles - are the key measurements that should be collected.

The length guarantees that the dildo can penetrate you and your partner properly, whereas the width and diameter indicate whether or not it will fit into the opening, slot, or rings of your harness.

When determining dimensions for a dildo to be used as part of a strap-on, there are a few things to bear in mind.

First and foremost, whether the dildo will be coupled to a harness, there are two different lengths to choose.The "actual length" and either the "useful length" or "penetration length" are commonly used terms.

To prevent sliding during intercourse, a piece of the dildo's base must remain in or below the hole or O-ring when it is attached to the harness.The harness will often cover anywhere from half an inch to one and a half inches of the dildo, rendering it useless for penetration.

If you're having anal intercourse, the amount of unusable material is usually even longer, and it varies based on the size of cheeks of your partner.

The "actual length" of the dildo is its entire length, but the "usable" or "penetration" length is what remains once harness thickness and other considerations are taken into account.

How to Put a Dildo into your Harness?

Try putting on the harness outside of the bedroom, standing in a neutral stance (without your body thrust forwards or leaned backwards), and measuring (or having your partner measure) the section that stays sticking out to get a sense of the dildo's penetration length.

While personal preferences will vary from person to person, for optimal pleasure and feeling, a penetration length of at least 3-4 inches is recommended.

If you plan to use your strap-on for vaginal penetration, a dildo at least 5" long is advised, while a dildo at least 6" long is recommended if anal activities are your primary goal.The usable dimensions of thickness will be determined by the size - specifically the diameter.

With a Partner, Using the Strap-On

You could feel ready to start utilising your gear with your companion once you've grown used to it. Again, I advise taking it slowly. Allow your lover to see you in your new outfit. As you and your companion decide, put on your harness and dildo.

If you're both comfortable with those actions, having your partner jack off your dildo or giving it a blow job can be really exciting.

The most crucial piece of advise I can give you if you want to utilise your strap-on for penetration is to use a ludicrous amount of lubrication. Ascertain that your companion knows when they require you to stop and add more lubrication. When it comes to lubrication, remember to never mix like with like. You won't be able to use silicone lubricant with your dildo if it's silicone-based. Instead, use a water-based product.

Safety Considerations;

 When discussing homemade strap-ons and their respective safety and effectiveness, we tend to adopt the following rules:

• Never use anything other than a properly constructed dildo created exclusively for sexual intercourse and made from an approved material such as silicone or hard plastic to penetrate yourself or your partner. Bottles, toothbrushes, hairbrushes, and especially fruits, vegetables, or any other edibles should never be used for any type of penetration that could cause pain, discomfort, or even injury to sensitive areas of the body.
• Investing a little extra money in a high-quality dildo is well worth it, as it will keep you and your partner safe and healthy no matter how kinky things get in bed.
• If you have a dildo but no harness and want to use it like a strap-on, your best option is to get a high-quality harness - either a "strappy" style made of leather or nylon or a "lingerie" version made of cotton, natural latex, or other softer fabric materials.
• You CAN securely make temporary "DIY" alternative harnesses using common household materials while you wait for your brand new strap-on harness to arrive, but keep in mind that they are merely temporary solutions and should not be viewed as a permanent replacement for a high-quality strap-on harness.
• Finally, although lubrication is not a physical component of the strap-on system, it would be irresponsible of us not to include it. This is because sections of the body other than the vagina - such as the anus - do not create their own lubricating fluids, and non-lubricated sexual activities in these locations can cause irritation, discomfort, and even pain and tearing, which can last well beyond your bedroom romps.

Make your own Strap on-dildo at home:

• The lingerie-style harness is the most straightforward to make with items readily available in your home.
• This is due to the fact that lingerie (also known as underwear) style harnesses have the most basic design, with no complicated straps, knots, buckles, or fasteners.
• Rather than repurposing an existing pair of underwear, buy a new pair specifically for your impromptu harness.
• This is due to the fact that a newer pair of underwear will endure longer than one that has already seen several years of use.
• Look for fabrics that are thicker and of higher quality, such as thicker cottons, natural latex, or even "workout" underwear composed of synthetic materials like nylon, Lycra or spandex.
• You should also buy underwear that suits well and can withstand a lot of action without slipping or twisting.
• Put on your underpants first.
• Use a fabric marker to mark the spot where the dildo should be positioned - ideally, the area above the pubic bone, as close as possible to where a flesh and blood penis would be.
• Remove the undergarment after making a "X" or circle mark. Then, grab a pair of sharp scissors - preferably, a pair intended expressly for cutting fabric, such as sewing scissors, as there will be less risk of the cloth fraying as a consequence of your incisions.
• At the point where you made your mark, cut a "X" shape into the fabric. Stick to the X-shape and avoid cutting a full circle or hole at all costs.
• This reduces the flexibility of your "harness" and allows for a far smaller range of dildos than a simple, versatile "X" cut.
• In general, we recommend keeping any incisions you make small at first, then widening or lengthening them as needed to accommodate the dildo you've selected.