A guide to masturbation for women that want to change their game and open the door to earth-shattering orgasms
If you learned how to pleasure yourself from watching porn, It would be safe to assume how fast you discovered that masturbation does not work that way, the female actresses in porn go at their vulvae with the same vigor with which a mother hen search for grains to eat the soil, scratching erratically and pulling apart the labia with no finesse. You will discover fast if you go at yourself like that, that you will most likely not get the sexual gratification you are looking for, you would only end up irritating your skin. Do not get me wrong by thinking that this style of masturbation is wrong and do not be offended if that is how you get off, what I am trying to say is that, this style of masturbation is not meant for everyone and will not work for everyone. That’s the truth.
In the past, a woman’s pleasure was supposed to come from giving pleasure to her husband and satisfying his needs. Also, contributing to the family by giving birth to children, these things should be a source of pleasure to her. While these things could be pleasurable, they give a different form of pleasure, a different form of excitement, totally different from what you get when you touch yourself. Masturbation does not have to lead to orgasm, but when you are able to feel yourself, you will understand your body better, and also know the power that you hold over yourself.
Masturbation is self pleasure, and this simply means you giving yourself the gift of pleasure and the reward you want, for this pleasure is most of the time, an orgasm. The stronger, the better. But, what is it when your masturbation does not give you the orgasm that you need, that is no longer pleasure, it is simply a waste of time. I do not want you to waste your time, finding pleasure in a way that will most likely not work, not everyone will squirt from rubbing hard on their vulva a couple of times. That is why I am going to be sharing with you secrets to masturbation that will surely open doors of earth-shattering orgasms to you.
Porn has taught you to lie on your back and rub hard on your clit? You have done that and it did not work? You know why? It is because just like every other features you have, your beauty, your height, your hair texture, the same way these things are unique to you, is the same way your vulva is peculiar to you, and you must find that style of masturbation that will work for you every time. Sometimes not just the style, but the position, the ambience, all these things comes together to have an effect on your state of mind. That is why, everything must be done with a mindfulness, although, this should not take the place of spontaneity, that one too, has its allure.
For a mind-blowing, sheet-gripping and toe-curling orgasm, try to read to the end. To get started, you need to do the following:
- Set the mood and get comfortable: it is always the idea that setting the mood and creating a soothing ambience is usually for partnered sex. This cannot be farther from the truth, you can set a soothing ambience for yourself as well, get some music in and burn some scented candles. When you are comfortable in your environment, this has an effect on your mood as well. You will be relaxed and at peace.
- Get your bottle of lube ready: yes, your body may produce its natural lubricant, but the volume of this is depending on the person, so to provide the necessary assistance your body needs in the aspect, get a bottle of water-based or silicon-based lube ready, I assure you that, the extra lube will make for a smoother and sweeter experience. Your hand will move easier on your body.
- Do not rush into it, explore your body: go slowly, you are running a race, this is not forced orgasm, it is not against your will, so enjoy the whole process. Slowing go for your erogenous zones, touch your clitoris slowing, tease it slowly. With gentle touch, tease your labia and slide your hands, explore, it’s your body.
- Let your imagination thrive: let your mind go, let it dwell in your fantasies, forget the present and go into your mind. Is it that sexy neighbor, boss or anyone that you have ever thought of having sex with. Which situation have you ever fantasized about, put yourself there and continue exploring.
- If your imagination is strained, include erotica in your fantasies, reading a sexually themed short stories can be useful in getting you in the mood or watching a
- bit of porn, but keep in mind that you are doing what suits you, not what is being done in the video you are watching.
Masturbating styles for mind-blowing orgasms
As a woman, your orgasm can be gotten from clitoral stimulation, vaginal, anal or a stimulating combination of two or three of these areas. To stimulate these areas simultaneously, you might need to include sex toys in your play, so that while the toy is focused on a part, you can focus on the other.
Clitoral orgasm
Your clitoris is that organ right outside your vulva, it is easier to reach and the sole stimulation of it can trigger an orgasm. For clitoral orgasm, the easiest way to reach your clitoris is to lie on your back, although this is depending on what you enjoy. This may seem like exactly what I said masturbation is not in the beginning, but the main point is for you not to go hard on your clitoris like you are trying to get rid of it. Rather, you are going to touch and stroke your clitoris in different ways that you desire. Stroke and touch your clitoris at different pace and slowly edge yourself towards orgasm. There are also several toys that you can use on your clitoris will you massage it. The Magic Wand mini is a perfect sex toy for clitoral stimulation, it is the newer and more compact version of the Magic Wand, the Magic Wand mini packs a bunch and will definitely trigger sheet-gripping orgasms for you.
Vaginal orgasm
Your vagina is inward unlike your clitoris that could be reached easily, one of the best way to stimulate the vagina is bringing gravity into play, this way you do not have to reach inward too much, your body is already being pulled down on it own. If you are wondering how best to get to your G-spot, you can try squatting. Squatting brings your body into a shape that makes it easy to reach the G-spot. Once in position, you can slide your finger in and stroke your G-spot. And if you need help reaching your G-spot, you can incorporate sex toys as well for vaginal stimulation. There are insertable dildos and vibrators that will reach deep into your vagina and stimulate your pleasure spot. The NJOY PURE WAND is an insertable dildo made with stainless steel. It is quite ideal for reaching and stimulating the G-spot. And it is manually operated, with two differently sized ends that make it ideals for women with different levels of experience with a sex toy.
Anal stimulation
Anal stimulation is one of the least explored of the three, probably because it is mostly out of sight in several sex positions. But the anus also has a concentration of nerves that you can stimulate and will give you some of the best orgasms you would ever have. If you are new to anal play, you can start with just your finger and some lube. For easy access to your anus, you could go down on all fours, in a doggy style pose. In the position, you can easily explore your anal passage. The position also allow easy use of sex toys. The NJOY PURE WAND can be used in anal play as well, it is versatile in that way. Also, LELO ENIGMA CRUISE is an advanced technology massager that can be used for both vaginal and anal stimulation.
Combination of stimulation of more than one erogenous zone.
You can, as well, stimulate two zones together, using sex toys and your fingers are the same time. The effect, I assure you is quite exhilarating, you feel all that sensations in two places, it’s simply worth trying, although is you are put off my too much sensation, this will not be the perfect combination for you, you can stick to stimulating one of the three, one at a time so as not to experience an overload. The basis of it all is to understand what your body enjoys.
Reflection Works too
Did you know that, there is an immeasurable level of pleasure that can derived from watching yourself while masturbating? This might bring some level of shame for some people to see the look of ecstasy on their own face as they touch themselves. So, this might take some getting used to, as with other things, you have to only do what you are comfortable with. If you are willing to give is a try, when it is time that you want to pleasure yourself, why don’t you get in front of a body length mirror that will capture all, look into your own eyes in the mirror as you pleasure yourself. This may give you a vibe of being with someone else because most times, we look different from how we have ever perceived ourselves, but this will add more kink to that fantasy.
Health benefits of masturbation
You may think that masturbation, is solely for pleasure, but I assure you there is more. Aside from the orgasm you get, your body own receives a fresh dose of healthy hormones that overrides any other at that moment of ecstasy. The health benefits of masturbation include:
- Masturbation helps to lower your body stress level:you have probably noticed how orgasm makes you feel relaxed and blissful, your anxiety and stress drains away. You feel calmer after orgasm. So, whenever you have had a lot of stressful hours at work, masturbating to orgasm might be just what you need to let go of that stress.
- Masturbation helps reduces pain from menstruation cramps: orgasm triggers your body into releases dopamine and serotonin, these hormones are feel-good hormones, when their levels are high, they overshadow the pain from the cramps, and you will feel better.
- Your vagina is healthier: when masturbating, more blood is pumped into the vagina, and this will help keep the organ in good health and increase the wellness of the cells in that part of your body.
- Self pleasure decreases the risk of contracting STDs: this is logic, you cannot get a disease from self pleasure except you share your sex toys with someone that has a form of STDs, but while maintaining your own toys and using them only on yourself, your chances of getting Sexually Transmitted Diseases is quite low. Although, this does not mean you should not have sex with other people, it is simply part of the benefit of masturbation.
Psychological benefits of masturbation
Masturbation gives you a certain understanding of yourself, and you also get more comfortable with yourself. This awareness will go a long way into who you are, your self perception and self-esteem will benefit from this. Generally, people that experience more sexual gratification are happier.
Conclusion
Masturbation is a gift to yourself, in the past, a woman’s pleasure might not be the main reason for sex, but in these modern times, not getting the opportunity to experience pleasure especially self pleasure is inhumane, that is why, this secret is being shared for women all over to be experience the power and joy that comes from masturbation.