Things can get tricky when performing oral sex, which can lead to a less than fun experience. The last thing you want to do is traumatize the partner who is giving or receiving so that they don't think about doing it again. And even pass on this trauma to future partners. So here are five things you shouldn't do during sex.
It's like your God-given right to ask your partner to reject you
I got it. You need some head. But no one owes you. Nothing is given to you because you want it. It is important to discuss sexual goals and the specificity of those goals with a sexual partner, such as wanting oral sex. Never enter the bedroom without first discussing the menu. You may find yourself disappointed.
Insist that your partner modify their genitals according to your personal preferences
Everyone has a preference for how they like to maintain their own personal regional grooming. But did you know it's rude to tell your partner to shave or wax just because you like it?
And, depending on what you say, you may inadvertently insult your partner. There are many ways to get your partner to flatter themselves without insulting them. One way is to simply ask them about their preferences for embellishments and go from there. You may find that they will be more willing to compromise with each other if the request is made in the right way.
Compare the speaking ability of new and former partners
It can be said that some people are just the way to do things, or just "eloquence". No matter what, everyone's style and experience level are different. In many cases, comparing each other is like comparing apples to oranges. Just don't do it. And don't tell your partner if you want to. If you want to change the way your partner performs oral sex, you can make suggestions and tell them what works or doesn't work for you.
Tell them that the best blowjob you've ever had can sometimes make them feel insecure or not good enough in terms of personal skills. No one likes to feel inadequate. Especially when it comes to sex.
Shot in your partner's mouth without permission
Male or female, it's not cool. Some people are not satisfied with the idea of ejaculating into their mouths during orgasm. Some people just don't care that it tastes or even exists. Although some people can't control it and make honest mistakes, please don't do it on purpose. If your partner asks you not to do so before rejecting you, and you agree not to do so, doing so may create mistrust between you and your partner. This may cause them to never want to be disappointed in you again. No one likes unpleasant surprises.
Use aggressive gestures as a way to suggest
Guys, I get it. You want your partner to go further with your member. But using physical gestures, such as pressing someone's head down, can have disastrous results. If your partner is unfamiliar with Deep Throat, pushing your member further into his mouth and sagging his throat may trigger his gag reflex.
The gag reflex is activated for a variety of reasons, but especially in this case, to prevent foreign objects from falling into the throat. It is very similar to the time when someone brushes his teeth and the toothbrush touches his mouth. This can cause someone to choke and in some cases drop food. This is just mean behavior, and unless you want to eat lunch on your partner's lap, ask permission before doing so.
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