Since sex has been around for ages and it’s a basic human need, it has seen many deviations. From around the ages, human beings have been conscious of their desires. They can talk about it, they can discuss it and they can manipulate in ways never comprehended.
BDSM is a type of sexual orientation where people derive pleasure from pain and humiliation. Bondage, gag, and many other things have been associated with it. Then comes the term Praise Kink. What is it?
Praise kink is exactly what it sounds like. It is the condition where people get turned on through praise, compliment, or verbal approval for the sexual desires and attires another person is wearing. Everybody loves praise. Right? And it’s exactly that. Words of affirmation during sexual fun, foreplay, and normal routine lead to sexual turn-on. It has been termed as a form of BDSM because in BDSM you go into rough areas while praise kink runs on the boundary of it leading to easy living for people who want to go into these territories.
Do You Have a Praise Kink?
It’s a question one should ask oneself. Only you can answer this question. We can only point out specific questions related to it, such as –
Do you get sexually turned on when your partner praises you in a submissive or dominant manner?
Do you like to receive praise for being sexual?
Do you love it when your partner shows you praise in terms of your sexual attire and sexual orientation?
Do you get turned on for the sexual comments on your body?
Do you tend to enjoy sexual activity when your partner starts praising you for activities?
Does positive verbal feedback lead to sexual desire increment in you?
What are your favorite parts during sexual fun? Does it include positive verbal comments made during the fun?
The answer to these questions will depend on the context. It may be anyone for some people when they give comments and you get turned on. Or it can be your partner that ignites the fire of desires within you.
How Can You Enjoy It?
Now the important question. If you have it or if you don’t but you want to, then how to enjoy it more? How to include in your sexual regime or sex lifestyle. The best thing in this area is to start talking about it with your partner. What works for you? Which phrases? Communication is the key, remember.
Here are some starting phrases which you can communicate to your partner to start using and then see how it responds with you.
- You’re such a good girl. (Replace girl with any other term you like slut, whore, pet, baby, kinky and more)
- You’re so good at it.
- You’re doing it well.
- You push my buttons.
- I love you when you do… (use activity phrase here.)
- Love it when you do that.
- I’m so in love with you for doing it.
- Amazing, keep doing it. Oh god!! Love it.
- Can’t stop thinking about… (use activity)
- You look sexually desirable in that outfit. (replace outfit with the name)
- Can’t wait to show you to my friends.
Keep in mind that these are just ideas. You can expand your horizons through this. There is no one way to use this. It’s up to you to explore every idea. What works for you depends on your partner and you and the communication between you people.
Praise and BDSM in Sex
Whether it is about textual sexual communication or verbal feedback, praise in BDSM and sex is highly good. It can be related to submissive things. When slaves used to be praised, they felt worthy of it and worked harder. This leads to sexual satisfaction and desires being ignited. The dynamic is very great in it. People make themselves vulnerable to their partner’s judgment because it can lead to the other side also.
Praise also leads to people feeling that they are properly acknowledged in a relationship. Since as a submissive, one’s role is to please the master, getting recognition in the form of verbal feedback leads to a good sexual appetite. Everybody works after that praise. Sexual domination is good in this term because control, play, bondage, choking is all future endeavors but before that comes recognition of the dynamic.
This kink is also related to eagerness to please the other person. You might love the aspect where you can please your partner and if your partner loves the way you do things and gives verbal recognition, it leads to good things. The feeling is amazing. Emotional craving is satisfied. Self-esteem in a relationship is good and when it gets connected to sexual fun, it leads to a fulfilling life and activity.
Praise in BDSM and sex is different from normal compliments, because the context is sexual. It plays a major role in reaching orgasm. Specific praise is the key during sexual activity. Sexual insecurities also get resolved through this.
Sometimes, giving praise for sexual things also gives intense pleasure. Horny and hot are the terms associated with it. Words of affirmation in normal conversation tend to please people and when they are used in a sexual context, it just explodes something altogether different in the body; this has been told by multiple people who are into praise kink.
Conclusion
Praise kink is beautiful in its context. You get so much out of it. Your relationship remains good. You get sexually excited. You start loving yourself and you get satisfaction to the core. Use it in your sexual life. But before that talk with your partner. Start going into the territory slowly. It’s not extreme, but it is good. Why not use it for re-igniting the flame of desires in your relationship. Go for it when you feel like it. Various research supports the evidence that it can lead to a cure for many sexual problems.