Sex is an important aspect of any relationship, and keeping things exciting and new in the bedroom can help keep the spark alive. Here are 6 new things that you can try in bed to spice things up and add some excitement to your sex life.
Role-playing
Role-playing is a fun and exciting way for you and your partner to spice your sex life. It involves taking on different identities or characters and can be a great way to explore different aspects of your personality and experience new sensations.
Role-playing can take many forms, from simple costumes and props to elaborate storylines and scenarios. Some popular role-playing ideas include doctor and patient, teacher and student, boss and secretary, and master and slave.
One of the benefits of role-playing is that it allows you to explore your fantasies in a safe and consensual way. It can also help to build trust and intimacy between partners, as it requires open communication and a willingness to be vulnerable.
To get started with role-playing, it's important to discuss it with your partner and establish some guidelines and boundaries. This can include discussing any fantasies or desires you have, agreeing on a safe word, and discussing any limits or boundaries that need to be respected.
It's also important to set the scene for your role-playing scenario, whether it's a simple costume change or a full-on reenactment of a scene. You can also use props and accessories to help set the mood and make the experience more realistic.
When engaging in role-playing, it's important to remember that it's all about having fun and exploring different aspects of your sexuality. You should feel free to experiment and explore different scenarios and characters and be open to feedback and communication with your partner.
It's also important to remember that role-playing is not for everyone, and it is necessary not to push someone into something they don't feel comfortable with. You should always respect your partner's boundaries, and be willing to stop if either of you becomes uncomfortable.
Date Nights
If you want to spend quality time together with your partner and probably catch up on some lost moments, then you should consider date nights. These nights can be planned or spontaneous, but they're always a good idea as they help to put the spark back into the relationship.
There are many different ways to plan a date night. One of the best ways to make a date night special is to make it unique, and exciting. For example, you can try a new restaurant, try a new activity like taking a dance class or trying a new hobby together or take a day trip to a nearby hot spot.
It's also important to make sure that the date night is focused on each other. This means turning off your phones and not being distracted by other things. You should try to engage in deep conversations, listen attentively, and make an effort to be present in the moment.
One of the best things about date night is the opportunity to dress up and make an effort with your appearance. This can make the experience even more special and romantic, and it's a great way to remind each other of how attractive the other one is.
Date nights also don't have to be expensive; you can plan a romantic night in, or even simply go for a walk together and talk. You can also plan a surprise date night, which could be a great way to add an element of excitement to the date.
Fantasy Fulfilment
Fantasy fulfillment is the act of bringing a personal fantasy to life. It involves exploring and acting out a specific desire or scenario that one has always wanted to experience. This can include anything from a one-night stand with a celebrity to a romantic night with a fairy, or even being seduced by a pirate.
Fantasy fulfillment can be a powerful tool for you and your partner to enhance your sex life and explore your desires. It allows you to let go of your inhibitions and explore new sensations and experiences. It can also create a deeper level of intimacy and trust as it requires open communication and vulnerability from both partners.
For couples, fantasy fulfillment can be an opportunity to experiment and explore different aspects of your sexuality. For example, if one partner has a fantasy of being dominated, the other partner could take on the role of the dominator. This could be done in a safe and consensual way to create a deeper level of intimacy and trust.
Another example of fantasy fulfillment is when couples have different kinks and fetishes and they want to explore them. In such cases, they can explore different scenarios, costumes, and even props to make the experience more realistic.
Dirty talk
Dirty talk, also known as sexual talk is another exciting way to explore your sexuality with your partner. It involves using explicit language and sexual innuendos to express one's desires and fantasies during intimacy.
When used correctly, dirty talk can add an extra layer of excitement and pleasure to your sexual experience. It can also help you communicate your desires and boundaries, and can even lead to better, more fulfilling sex.
However, it's important to keep in mind that not everyone is comfortable with dirty talk, and it's essential to talk about it with your partner before engaging in it. It's also necessary to set boundaries and make sure that both partners feel comfortable and safe with the language used.
Here are a few examples of dirty talk that you can use to spice your conversation:
"I can't stop thinking about how good it feels when you touch me."
"I love it when you kiss me there."
"I want you to take control and make me feel good."
"You look so sexy right now, I can't wait to feel you inside me."
It's also good to keep in mind that dirty talk doesn’t have to only be verbal, it can also be done through text messages or even sexting.
Sensory deprivation
Sensory deprivation, also known as "sensory isolation" or "sensory attenuation," refers to the intentional reduction or removal of stimuli from one or more of the senses. This can include anything from wearing a blindfold or earplugs to floating in a dark, soundproof tank of water.
You may choose to engage in sensory deprivation as a way to deepen your connection and increase intimacy. For example, you may decide to spend time in a dark room with your partner, communicating through touch and sound alone. This can create a heightened sense of awareness and intimacy, as well as a deeper understanding of one's partner.
Shower sex
Shower sex can be a steamy and exciting experience, but it can also be challenging if you’re new to the adventure. However, with a little bit of creativity and planning, shower sex can be a fun and enjoyable addition to your sexual repertoire.
One creative idea for shower sex is to use a waterproof bench or stool in the shower. This can provide a stable surface for one person to sit on while the other stands, making it easier to maintain balance and control during intercourse. Additionally, a bench or stool can also be used for oral sex or other sexual acts.
Another idea is to incorporate a waterproof vibrator or massager into your shower sex routine. This can add an extra level of stimulation for both partners and can be particularly enjoyable for women as the warm water can enhance the sensation.
Another example of how to make shower sex fresh and exciting would be to change the setting or atmosphere. If you're the adventurous type, you could try showering under the stars or even outdoors if possible. The sensation of the water cascading over your body while feeling the fresh air blowing on you could make it a very unique and exciting experience.
A specific example of this could be a couple’s camping trip, where they decide to shower outside using a portable shower bag, it could be an exciting change of scenery and add an outdoorsy twist to your shower sex.
As always, it's important to make sure that you're using lubricant and being mindful of safety. With some planning and a bit of creativity, showering can be an ideal time to get intimate with your partner while water runs over your body.
In conclusion, experimenting with new things in the bedroom is a great way to keep the spark alive in a relationship and add some excitement to your sex life. The key is to communicate openly about what it's comfortable for you and your partner and what's not.